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The posts provided here are intended to provide psychoeducation, resources, and support for current clients, potential clients, or anyone seeking information about mental health. These posts are not a suitable replacement for mental health services including medication, therapy, counseling, or crisis management. If you are seeking help for any mental health or relationship struggle, please contact a mental health professional you trust. 

Ambiguous Loss: Embracing the Blur

This is the second post of a three-part series on Grief and Loss. In part one, "The Grieving Myth: 5 Steps to Healing", I discussed the 5 Stages of Grief model and the common myths surrounding the "right" way to grieve. Today's post is about Ambiguous Loss, a form of grieving that is not commonly understood. My hope in writing about Ambiguous Loss is to provide a name for what you may be experiencing as well as resources to help you reach your goal of healing. Ambiguous Loss is a form of Grief that occurs when a loved one is either psychologically or physically gone, but not both. The term was coined by Dr. Pauline Boss in her book, "Ambiguous Loss: Learning to Live with Unresolved Grief".

The Grieving Myth: 5 Steps to Healing

I’ve been thinking about Grief a lot lately. Grief, or the “strong, sometimes overwhelming emotion for people... [which] stems from the loss of a loved one or from a terminal diagnosis they or someone they love have received.” As I mentioned in my post on Vulnerability, many mental health professionals notice themes in their work in a certain amount of time. Right now, that theme is Grief, Loss, and Ambiguous Loss. This blog post is one of a three-part entry on Grief and Loss. Today I’ll discuss the commonly known Five Stages of Grief model. The Myth of the Five Stages of Grief When we think of Grief we tend to think of the sadness and emptiness that a person feels after the death of a love

Gottman Relationship Advice

It is almost impossible to talk about couples therapy without talking about the work of Drs. Julie and John Gottman. They have been been studying successful (and unsuccessful) relationships for the past 40 years and are able to predict if a couple will stay together with over 90% accuracy. I have recommended Gottman's book, "The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work" to a few of my couple clients in order to provide a common language to discuss events. A second outcome I am hoping for when I recommend this book is that the clients will improve their ability to notice when the problem that brought them to my office is present. For example, if the couple is experiencing Negativity, Resentme

How Can Vulnerability Help Me?

Something I have noticed since I started doing therapy is that the same topic, idea, problem, or experience will occur several times in a short amount of time. My clients will probably be able to recall at least one time I have said something to the effect of, "I talked about this same idea earlier today with another client." The most recent theme that has been present in my therapy sessions is Brené Brown's work on vulnerability and shame. I first learned about Brené Brown's work on the first day of a qualitative research class in my Master's program. We watched "The Power of Vulnerability", which is, to my knowledge, Brown's first TED Talk. The point of showing us this video was to introdu

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